posted 2018-11-03 00:56:16

my grandmother has been dead two days, memorial service for the end of the month, and I'm trying to figure out how to introduce my poly pod, as a group, to the family at the memorial service.


okay, I need to find a way to make that look awesome.

The first rule of ettiequte for any death is to make the deceased the center of mass. The weight. The Black Hole. Everything reflects towards that black hole. Don't go into your own shit, make it about you or some random third party, phrase everything in terms of the departed.

People orbiting just around the departed, can be included in grief. The further from the corpse you get, the less emo you get.


So how do my amours function?

the only thing worse than doing someone else's emotional work is hoping that people you love and respect can do the emotional work of a third party.

with minor prep, mom will be fine.








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